In two months I will be moving out of my four bedroom apartment and moving into a small studio apartment by myself. This isn’t a huge move because it’s about 500 feet from my current apartment, but it will be a transition none the less. Making the decision to live alone is not something that was easy. It’s hard going from living with your three best friends to having a space to yourself, but it was a choice that I made and I am very happy with.
This is the 500sqft apartment I will be moving into in two months.
There are a lot of things I had to consider when making this change!
- Am I going to get lonely?
Honestly, this was my biggest fear. What if I just sit alone in my apartment and do nothing all the time? I mean don’t get me wrong I can spend days watching Netflix and surfing the internet but friends are good too (right? right.). This is where I see the benefits of living alone come out: You must become your own best friend. Lets start with becoming your own best friend, with this we must know what our boundaries are and how to interact within our own mind. This may sound insane but when living alone you’re in your head 24/7 and we need to learn to not be our worst critic and must learn to love ourself. Once these things start we becoming supportive, and inspired within ourselves which only benefits the quality of life we live.
- How am I going to inspire my space?
When sharing a space with someone else you’re limited to what you can do. But with living alone you’re able to take your passions and run with it. I plan on having an area for filming that I wouldn’t be able to do in my small bedroom, but because all the space is mine I can do whatever I want. You don’t have to worry about bothering someone else or balancing your priorities with someone else. You can do you at any time of the day. (YOU DO YOU GIRL) Luckily my roommates now are amazing and I haven’t had an issue with having people over but I know that’s a common problem. If this is true for you, get your own place and problem solved.
- How will I conquer my bad habits without my roommates there to judge?
This is where knowing yourself comes into play. If you know you have a vice with too much sugar consumption, or too much pop you have the ability to stop that. Easy, don’t bring it into your space. You don’t have the issue of roommates bringing home the brownies that their mom cooked for them, or them sitting in front of the TV binge watching Say Yes to the Dress as they beg you to join them. You’re queen of your space, and that is a power you should not take lightly.
- But, how do I know what to do?
You choose everything in your space now, you know what you need and don’t need. What will aid in your growth as a person, and what will not. You choose your company, you choose the experience that you live within this space. If you want constant classical music because it relaxes you then play it as loud as you would like. If you want to cook dinner every night then cook your little heart out. Everything is now up to you and this form of freedom will allow for your world to shape into whatever you want.
Soon you will be loving your space and you will come to appreciate the quotes by Ellen Burstyn, “What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be.”.